My h of 14 years together, 9 years married, told me on the 10th of this month that he was not happy, placing all blame on me that he wanted a divorce. I in turn could not believe we were having this conversation as at that time we were trying to have another child. H informed me he had not been happy for 3-4 years and blamed it all on me. We have a 17 month old son. H works away a great deal of the time mon-fri. I do not doubt that we were having issues surrounding my resentment of feeling like a single parent most of the time. Also stressed about having a sexless marriage (wish I had found that book sooner). H kept track and we had sex 7 times in teh fifteen months after s birth. I love my husband a great deal, this is not the man he is or the man I married, I am in ic at this time and have gone twice. I read all of dr yesterday and am on my path, I think I was getting to this pth already. My question at this time was that I cleaned outhe cupboards and frig because h is coming to take out trash on Saturday during visit and I set aside items for h, is this a good idea or not. He is out of the home bounching from hotel room to room, I don't think he is with ow at this time but I do think he is having a mid-life crisis. He was calling me the day before he told me he wanted a divorce to ask if I needed anything at the store, a month a go trying to have a baby and the weekend before helped me at my parents house. THen he decides he is done, life is too short, his mother is sick, he bought a new truck, might be going to see an attorney, told no one and spoke with two strangers about iut, has yet to tell his fam. My h is not this man he is fair reasonable and caring. Will not consider counsleling at this time and has not made one comment of his fault in it all. the first day I begged aI am done with that now, no longer hold his hadnd or trying to make life easier for him. I need to get my life in order for myself. And make me desirable to him. Advice and support is needed now.
