A.S. >>My IC was glad to see that I am mentally in a better place.She believes that everyone has a point of no return and although we love our partners, if the partner does not turn things around while the window to our hearts are open,the window of opportunity gets narrower and narrower. She seems to think that my window is closing because I have allowed the A to consume my energy which is needed to create and maintain already healthly relationships. She suggests a no pressure approach. The same time(8mos)and space I allowed H during the A, she wants me to allow myself or more. She wants me to relax, continue to exercise and work on decreasing my stress levels. I cannot make life changing decisions under pressure. There's a healing process before a total restoration is achieved.
Adinva/25Yrs/Mishaka >>It is mind bogging. I thought he just didn't want to face or own up to those horrible things or had selective memory. I want to be able to believe and trust again. Not just for my marriage but for myself. I have this wall built up around my heart and I feel secure in it.
