how is the 50/50 sharing of custody during the separation working out for everyone? I'm very curious because that's what W is proposing we'd do if we split. I have to think it would be hard on the kids to essentially have two houses without a single place to really call home, but at the same time I'll be relieved to avoid a custody battle (that I'd probably lose) and I'll appreciate continuing to be such a prominent part of their lives.
Hopefully Grizz doesn't mind going a bit off topic, but W and I have been doing a 50/50 split for the 5+ months we've been separated. It's a reasonable compromise IMO. Sure I'd rather us all be under one roof, but barring that, it's been working well enough. We decided on a weekly split so that it would make it easier for us to coordinate weekly homework needs and also so the kids wouldn't feel like they were in constant flux. My brother and his ex do a 2/3/2 day split and the kids are constantly on the move because of it. It's also difficult for them to coordinate taking the kids on vacation, and coordinating homework/ projects that cross over. So I think the weekly split works better. It would be tough if I didn't get to see the kids for an entire week, but in my case the kids come to my house after school even on W's weeks, so I see them almost every day regardless.
My W has always been a superior mom and still is, so from the beginning I made no effort to try and get a larger percentage of custody. W actually expected me to and was very surprised and relieved when I suggested a 50/50 split. We sat down and worked out all the details very amicably before she moved out. I think that helped take a lot of the pressure off the situation early on.
