I think there is a difference between a WAS and a MLCer. I would compare a MLC person to an addicit that needs to hit bottom and a WAS who is more a person that is not having their needs met in a relationship.

For most of us it is a combination of both aspects. I know that in my ditch their were many things I needed to change about be. But ultimately my sitch would have happened regardless of whether or not I was the perfect wife because my h is so unhappy with himself.

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M 39
H 35
D5,D4
M 4
T 9
ILYBNILWY 5/18/11
Left 7/11/11
Divorced 12/1/13