Okay so now I'm confused and I don't know what to do next.
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I told him I can't give him relationship advice.
Bravo!!! That was exactly the right thing to tell him IMO.
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He said a few times that he just thinks he is still trying to work out what he wants.
Tell him you understand, and that he needs to take time and space to figure things out for himself. Tell him you're doing the same, trying to figure out what you want.
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I want to be there for him but I need to think of me first.
Normally you want to be there if the WAS is reaching out, but I don't think that extends to being a sympathetic ear when they want to cry over OP!!!! Seriously, your H needs a good slap across the face, LOL! I'd love to shake him and say "what in the world are you thinking??" Going to your W to whine about the OW breaking up with you is one of the craziest things I've read on these forums