A large majority of people who post on the forums had spouses that were in full blown mlc.

Many do not return here to post once they have begun to reconcile. Reconciling takes a lot of work once the mlcer has begun to re-enter earth.

Did you check out AliSuddenly's threads? I believe she's piecing now. Jack and Three Beans has successfully reconciled as well.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.