Well I did not ask her, I had asked her friend if she would talk to her about the possibility of seeing a mediator. I wanted her to pick one because of the way she was so against the therapist we went to early. ( this therapist stated that she had a anxiety disorder). Did not want her to think I had conspired with a mediator, the way she accused our restate lawyer of conspiring with me against her.
She gave me that line about blonde hair blue the day she left me, that was my response then. Six months ago.
W texted me she needs to talk, she call I did answer she is needs to move out of her mother's place. And needs money. I told her that are in mediation and I believe all financial questions should be deal with there. Now she is telling me that I am the one dragging things out, I am the one try to hurt her. That my actions are unacceptable. I told her that I have been trying to talk to you for the last 6months and you chose not to talk about.
And I can tell you this much....it would be very rare for a woman to leave a man who is giving her what she needs. That means filling her emotional needs b/c if she doesn't get that need met....the other things don't hold up very well. Do you know what I mean?
How does a man meet the emotional needs of a woman while detaching and GAL'ing? Currently the WAW is fully driving the bus with regards to when we communicate, how much, and what about...I am just in response and support mode: being cool, collected, and supportive.
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
Her running out she screamed at me in front of the mediator that is was disgusting and she tried to slam her door in my face. I stopped it and she scream at " I do not ever want to see you again." This destroyed me. The mediator told me that she needed professional help, now this is the fourth outside professional to tell me that. This is were I struggle, I care for her how can I stand by and let her go through that pain. Someone told me that she need to " crash and burn before she will get help". How can I not intervene? How can I just sit by and let that happen to someone. I know I need to let go..
It has been a week and half since my last meeting, i have been waiting for her to make the next move. I have not tried to contact her, wish ther was a way I could scoop her out of my mind.
Hey Edward it's hard to erase ur spouse from your mind. Most of us plan for life not death. So it is normal what u r going through. My ex behaved in ways that I never ever thought she was capable of. It hurt a lot it confused me..just be still and live
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
thank you was feeling pretty down today, thinking about what has happen in the last months. Thinking of the way she looked at me screaming, In the mediator's office, how she looked at me when the mediator said that legal she may have pay me,(I was not even asking , the cards were just being put on the table, no decision were made) I do not want anything of hers, I would just like her to leave my things alone, she squandered her retirement on plastic surgery, and now she is after mine. I Remember the times she would scream at me while we were together, and I would take it, and not say anything about. I would shallow it all, and way for her to calm down before talking with her. That is something I have been working on
