I've been reading up on the forums and benefitting from seeing how people deal with their R difficulties.
I'm recently D from my W of 16 years. Last spring I told her I was finished, and by the time I realized that is not what I really wanted she had decided to leave. She had no interest in discussing it further, and pleading from me, just lead to more distancing from her. She moved out in April. Spent the summer trying to give her space, and work on my own sense of well being. Went to IC. Approached her in the fall to discuss reconciling. Still no interest. She filed for D in October, and it is now final. We have one S, 9, and split the parenting.
I still hold hope for reconciliation. I've begun DB phone calls, and they've helped me stay positive and not apply pressure to her, things I want to do, but have difficulty with.
Do any in the forums know how common or rare it is for couples to get back together after getting this far? I find myself thinking I'm just delusional about any future chance between us. I guess I'm looking for success stories or at least some hint that post-divorce reconciliation is possible.
H: 38 xW: 38 M: 16 T: 18 S: 9 BD: 2/2012 W moved out 4/2012 D: 11/2012
