Isn't forgiveness a process?? Hmmm... A process for me? It's been a lot to process
I think first it's a choice. Then we have to keep making that choice again & again, maybe even daily.
And if we never saw it growing up, (I never did) then you might need tools to learn HOW b/c it's all well & good for us to say "forgive/let go", but if you don't know how, you need to learn how.
I went to a workshop that helped me, and also read some books a Therapist suggested. The books were not as helpful as the workshop b/c that was experiential,
meaning not a lecture or a book. But exercises that help us process forgiveness and work through it and get us to the other side.
And still, we have to recommit to those choices...check out Essential Experience's workshop, which I can definitely recommend. They have a website and other DBers have gone and can attest to what I"m telling you about its' value. (They provide housing too, so if you want to save money, or meet more people in it, EE has that advantage).
I've heard that Lifspring is also good, and it's in more cities, but I lack personal experience with it. All I'm saying is maybe you need a more intense strategy for getting to the other side.
But if you're okay where you are, then good! (But don't let fears of self discovery prevent you from getting more tools).
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