Thank you adinva...that makes sense. I married and had kids later in life--married at 36, had sons at 38 and 42. (I'm 47). for my whole adult life I lived abroad in 3 different countries, traveled to probably 50 others, became fluent in Spanish and played the piano and sang in a choir. I have a PhD and taught full-time for 20 years. This motherhood gig is new to me and something I longed for my entire life. So I am exactly where I want to be right now (except with no husband!). I will have to keep thinking of what else I can do because I love where I am now, and I'm really busy with being part of the PTO, the board of directors at my son's preschool, the head of a mom's group in town. I do everything I love, socialize, take the boys on adventures, bake and cook and decorate the house. In short, I already "have a life". and it's one that I love.
I totally get your point, and being attractive to H and showing him how things would be different makes total sense. I would love to lose the rest of my baby weight, and take the boys on far flung adventures--(no $ for that though)...maybe I should try to run a 5K. That would be something out of my comfort zone and definitely something the boys could be a part of. Maybe that is what I'll do. Win win, fun for them, fun for me, will get in shape. and will be something NEW.
