This is the distance/ pursuit dynamic at work. If you pull back as it sounds like you have, then her reaction will be to pursue you (wants to eat together, sleeps in your bed). What you should do is not react. This is the "castle analogy" written by Tumbling that helps explain what is going on and how you should react:
That castle analogy was a really good way for me to visualize this and it hit home. Thanks!
I was driving home from work this evening and another one popped in my head. The WAS sometimes is like the driver of a car stuck behind another car going slow on the highway. WAS feels like they are stuck FOREVER behind someone holding them back, and FINALLY when the opportunity arises and the WAS can pass, they don't typically just casually drive on by, but actually speed up faster than the desired rate they want to travel in order to:
1) show the person they were stuck behind they aren't happy with the situation 2) frustratingly feel like they are making up for lost time.
For obvious reasons that jumped in my head, but it also helped me try and understand/cope with what to expect soon. I just have to trust that WAS will eventually slow back down to normal speed, and even if not I just have to let her go. She's driving her own car, not mine.
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