Thread #8 - It's time.

[Navyguy]

Hey everyone. W and I had our talk about working on our M a few days ago. I asked her if she had thought anymore about if she is committed to making our M work. She said that she is still here. I told her that I don't necessarily equate that to trying to work on our M. She agreed with that, and said that yes, she is trying.

I think we still have very different ideas of what trying is. For her, she is waiting to see if her feelings can come back. I haven't really seen any actual action on her part. IC and I discussed this quite extensively this week - and while I think things are different this time around, I had a hard time explaining why. IC said that from her POV, it seems like we are going back into our old situation. "Stuck". IC said that forward progress seems to have stopped. I couldn't really argue with her.

My biggest challenge is intimacy with W. I really feel like if we can come up with a plan to deal with that, we'll be on the right path. I am trying to create it, and she doesn't necessarily want it. It seems like an easy fix on the surface, but I am really struggling with this. It is probably pushing her away and having the opposite of my desired effect - but for some reason I keep telling myself "maybe today will be different" and I try again.

I'm sure being completely sex-starved isn't helping me out here at all. And now I feel like there's actually a chance for initmacy, so I want it more. I know this comes down to self-control, but what I don't know is if I should have to suppress these feelings and desires.

What do I do?