Do you overanalyze and create elaborate rules around everything you do?
It has been said here before, and elsewhere, you may not like or agree with every piece of advise you get here in these forums. You're welcome to take it or leave it, or take the parts that resonate with you.
It's the elaborate justification of specifically which people, which gender, what background or success level, you are willing to listen to, because you know best, that makes people throw their hands up at what looks like arrogance and ignorance.
I really do hope you and your wife work things out.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
