25yearsMLC has stuff her H also doesn't recall, and she somehow put the past behind her and moved forward. Maybe a marriage workshop will help you rebuild trust?
absolutely he does not recall many of the things he said.
For instance, I know where I was and what I was doing when I asked h if he was "willing to take the chance of losing his family for Alaska, OR if he thought I was bluffing". (I was in our copper sink bathroom, doing spackling...FWIW)
and he said "I guess I'm willing to take the chance of losing you guys" (POSSIBLY b/c I gave him a lose lose selection??)
He insists to this day he'd "never say ANYTHING like 'losing our family is a chance I'd be willing to take', it's not something I'd be willing to do..EVER.."
And I believe him in that HE doe not recall saying it. Why lie now?
IS it important? IF it were true NOW, heck yeah.
If it's not true, or isn't true NOW, then I'm focussing on the part of our vows where we say
"from this day forward...."
Hope that makes sense.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
