So I have decided to take my "rose colored" glasses off and see my relationship for what it is and has been. After some very hard conversations with very good friends I see that I have put a lot into my marriage with my W putting very little into the relationship except her financial contribution. For about 4 years now she has put all of her time and energy into her career, and while I still love her and want to make this work, I realize that she has benefited more from this relationship than I have. I was planning to have a conversation with her about this when I make the final move and here are some things I was going to talk to her about.
1.) I am not free labor. Stop calling me just to have me come over and fix your problems (internet/router not working, cell phone not working, etc..)
2.) I am tired of you having your monthly mental breakdowns and blaming me for all of your current problems. Stop calling me about these and deal with them yourself. You wanted to be separated now you get to deal with your own problems on your own. There is a long story with this that starts back in September where she will say something for a few weeks and then the next month she will have a break down and nit pick everything I do. I know I'm not perfect but her tirades are down right ridiculous.
3.) Stop using my heart as your personal yo-yo and I'm not a doormat. Pretty much goes along with number 2 where she get's my hopes up only to have a breakdown and re-nig on anything she said before, usually at the last minute.
4.) No "stopping by", call, or text and we can make plans from there but I don't want you in/near my place unless I invite you.
I think that covers pretty much everything I see on my end. I'm just tired of being treated like crap by her. There are certain things that I feel a W should give in a relationship and she did at first till she started her career and that is when she focused more on work and less on our relationship and I want those core things back in my new relationship. Whether it's with her, or with out her.
Please let me know what you think. Planning on having this conversation on March 2nd at dinner.
