Jen, it is very unfortunate that your H is proceeding with the D. It looks like he set his mind on D at this time. I think the best thing you can do now is to completely agree with his decision. I think that more you tell him that you don’t want it, more he is convinced about his decision. I know it is counterintuitive, but I’ve read so many books about divorce and all of them say that you need to agree with his decision 100%. Here is one suggestion about what to say to your spouse that I’ve read in one of the books: “I prefer that the marriage work, but you’re one hundred percent correct. It’s totally impossible.” You can tell him that you prefer your M to work, but he is right and you’ve grown apart. Don’t say anything else, let him wonder, if you are happy to move on. You have to be completely convincing though. You have nothing to lose at this point, so act as if you completely agree with his decision. Continue to GAL, be completely happy when you have any contact with him.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
