Thanks for your thoughts Adinva. My actions as far as GAL are for me - I've done a lot of things lately that I should have done long ago.
I'm not being manipulative as far as actions to show him I care - I DO care.
It only took him a few days to bring up how I had seemed to pull back and he thought I had moved on. That's when all started getting really weird. In retrospect, I wish I wuold have kept gonig down the path we were - we were becoming good friends again, and were still affectionate, etc. But I felt like it was all too comfortable for him, like he could think the whole situation was ok like that, and I was also giving him too much of a chance to hurt me more. I needed to detach more - he had intentionally hurt me several times - yes, a few of the times were times that I had expectations from him, but there is no reason for him to hurt me on purpose.
Anyway, I basically told him I was giving him space when he mentioned me backing off. He wasn't really happy with the answer and still thinks I am hiding things. He thinks I am dating, not true at all.
I feel like I'm speaking in circles and have no direction, as far as H goes. Normal day to day things I'm pretty well ok. But that doesn't help with the main goal of getting my family back together. Yes, the GAL and everything can be all about doing things for you etc and making the changes you need but in the end, the main goal is still getting the family back together. I'm sure there are people that feel otherwise.
