Don't ask questions there aren't answers for. It's not helpful.

Work the hand you've been dealt, and don't spend too much time railing against the fact you were dealt it. You can get a lot of sympathy but in the end it doesn't help as much as picking yourself up and moving forward.

Says the one who's been in railing mode for the past month...

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.