Rachael - you did the right thing to protect your assets. You are not paranoid or crazy - you know what you've found. He's been gaslighting you.
Does this mean he's not conflicted and hoping to reconcile (while still eating his cake?) - who knows. Right now you just need to protect yourself financially - if he's really a man who can't live without you, he'll step up to the plate when he sees what he's losing. Otherwise - well, you deserve a man who takes better care of you.
