RE: AS. Just wanted to let you know, you are a rock.
LOL! Thanks, I appreciate it
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Expecting delivery of DB and DR on monday. Which do you recommend I read first?
DR was written second and is kind of an updated version of DB. I would read that one first. Michele says early on in DR that she realized after writing DB that she was unintentionally implying to people that they could turn their situations around really fast, like in days or weeks. So she wanted DR to be formatted to give more realistic expectations.
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This weekend with the kids away, talking about practical stuff. W initiated. Seems like I have managed to hold it together. We have had a pleasant weekend.Listened,answered and not lost it emotionally.
Good! Strive to keep things that way in all future conversations. And remember, it's all about listening, not talking!! I still to this day struggle with this, I have to constantly stop myself when talking to W and refocus on listening.
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Still haven't been able to speak to her parents... Too difficult.
Don't talk to them about this!! Let your W handle that. Anything you say to them is going to get back to W and she will see it as controlling, manipulative behavior on your part even if you had the best of intentions. It's fine to talk to them about the kids, the weather, your job or whatever. Just not about your sitch with W.
