Cold Fire

[leopoldstotch]

Thanks ad I'm sure I'll be fine it's going to take some adjustments but in the end I'll be better off. It sure does seem to have dragged on forever without any movement at all and still being blamed for her unhappiness and the way things turned out.

You are right I no longer fear Divorce and I've done a lot of work on myself. i know my posts don't show it but I have. I'm not perfect in fact I never will be. It's not doing either one of us to stay in this M just because she wants the benefits of M without having to do anything but care for her needs and her needs only. The days of us living separate lives are over for me.

I've realized I cannot force her to include in her life and I can't make her have feelings for me. I suppose a LBS can only take hearing so many times "how we don't get along, we have nothing in common, I don't get that warm and fuzzy feeling when you are around, I'm not in love with you", etc. I've asked myself what kind of message are we sending our sons by the way we are living and it's not a good one. They see we do nothing together, they see how I'm no longer included in her family events. I could go on and on but I'll stop and just say this is the best decision for all of us.