Oh trust me I've been doing nothing but working on myself and no I don't want to save this anymore. I haven't focused on my W in a very very long time. You can't save something that someone doesn't want to save. I'm more than ready for a new life. PON there comes a point in a person's life where they truly know they've given it their all and they can't change the outcome. I'm at that point. I can no longer be held responsible for her unhappiness.
In my darkest hours of my sitch so far, when I was questioning whether I should kick him out, D him, set a boundary, just basically feeling like I was SUPPOSE to do something other than what I was, a wise friend of mine said to me "You don't need to move. You don't NEED to do anything. Lean into the limbo. Live it, until you know you can not do it anymore. And you will know when this time is, and you will not have any question about moving." It seems like you are at that place. Good luck.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
