You have no kids. You should go dark. No phone calls, no txting, only respond to very important stuff (which I don't see anythin g in your sitch). Have your L talk about d only. Keep working on yourself. Honestly listen to the advice on here. Detach. But most importantly work on yourself. What are you doing to GAL? I would go completely dark. If he txt you and you feel the need to respond wait 24-48 hours. Sounds like a mid life crisis but I am not the expert there.