Hi Leo: I'm sorry for what you've been going through, but glad that you have clarity and peace of mind at this time. The future is and always was uncertain, so take each moment as it comes but move forward in the way that you need to.

My sitch started just three months before yours, so I know how long this seems to have dragged out and I know the disappointment of seeing no movement in your spouse. I believe when you no longer fear divorce, when you're no longer willing to sell yourself short to avoid it, you will be able to live more fully and not struggle so much.

Best of luck to you.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.