25yearsmlc

[Cadet]

Truly young kids need not see conflict or fighting between their parents.

Thanks for sharing 25.
I think your D15 is forming her own ideas about relationships and who does she mirror?
The best thing you can do is keep your own relationship strong, wear YOUR oxygen mask first and that will help to PAVE the way for her.

Finally, now I wonder if my 91 y/o mother worries about me and my 8 siblings.

I have no clue what she thinks although you as the apple more than likely doesnt fall too far from the tree.
Your mother is the most together 91 year old I have seen.
Heck she still goes ziplining.
Are you asking this about whether you should worry about your daughter?
In 40 years when you are 91 then it will be a relevant question.
Right now......well what do you think?

Yes I think you are correct that some of this is normal for a D15.
On the other hand, the part about the denial.

What parts of that are true?
What can you control about this and change?

I think that your husband needs to be involved here and you need to make these decisions together.
Not unilaterally.

Well, my .02
Keep discussing.