Is this cake eating 11

[Tallula]

Oh, my. You are really dealing with someone who isn't in his right mind.

You are doing remarkably well given the crazy you are dealing with. It would seem that you are, in fact, the person he can take things out on. I would just keep doing what you are doing, try to stsy calm amist the crazy. You can't reason with crazy, it will make you crazy & they have more experience

Big hugs! I really feel for you & your children

[wishing, hoping]

NLW he is completely bonkers.

Obviously he has gotten himself into quite a financial pickle and he is desperate. Does he think the courts will look favorably on him not living up to his end of the deal with you and the children? No court is going to say, I am sorry you are in a financial mess and you don't have any obligation to pay. That's not going to happen.

Sounds like a classic case of MLC if I have ever heard one. Your H and mine sound like brothers.

I truly feel for you and your kids. I hope you have them in counseling or that they at least have someone to talk to.

Please pray and get some council (legal and financial and emotional) ASAP!

[lostinscared]

What a charmer! OW is a lucky, lucky girl!

Could be MLC, drugs, booze, a psychotic break, an act... who the heck knows. And you know what? Doesn't matter. You're never going to figure it out. And he is NOT your problem anymore.

I, like the others, am concerned about your finances and the potential fallout on you. Continue on your path. Additionally, have you documented this incident with the children? I am very very concerned about their mental state given the way their own father treats them. He can sue for custody if he's interested in donating money to his lawyers, there's no way he's getting them. But it's more than that. These types of interactions are no good for them. What are they saying to you? How are they feeling?

I am so sorry NLW. Put your game face on. Continue being kind. Keep those hands clean. I know you know all of this, but the reminders are helpful

I'm praying for you.

LIS

[movingon-1968]

Like she said ^^^ I hope you're documenting all of this...

Wow... just... wow.

He keeps it up, he'll be alienated by his own kids as well. I know how I'd have felt at 14 if my parents were in the middle of a D and one of them acted like that.

[LaPoo]

Hmmmmm...Things are not going as he had planned. He's acting desperate. He probably thought this would be easy to walk away from his family but finding out fairly quickly this is not so simple.

[NLW]

Vero, Tallula, Bklyn, KG, Labug, Busting (did I miss anyone?)

Thanks for all your support.
I did a gratitude list last night and it did help.

I also like the idea of "going on vs getting stuck"

What are ya gonna do?

Get on with it, of course.

I also like the idea of treating what happens as an 'adventure' - wish it was more of a rom-com than a tragedy, but .... I always wanted to be James Bond and triumph over the baddies. Here's my chance.

[NLW]

Hi Tallula,
Thanks for your support. I've been scared about stbx's mental state for some time. I'm the only one in RL, it seems, who thinks he might be losing his grip.

Makes me feel crazy, because it seems pretty obvious to me that there's a problem...
Anyway, good to hear that you suspect likewise (even if it's on the basis of MY description).

Hope you are doing OK too.
Best, NLW

[NLW]

W,H

Thanks for letting me know that you recognise crazy too!

This mlc sh-t is too much, is it not?

I am off to see the lawyer tomorrow, and accountant is ready to go.

Dentist took a big slab of money this morning. I'll be playing 'professional' bingo when the bills come in. Can't see where this is gonna balance out, but trying to have faith that things will brighten-up money-wise.

[NLW]

LIS, You make me laugh, in spite of my sitch!:

What a charmer! OW is a lucky, lucky girl!

I went through the same list: drunk? psychotic? etc.
And yes, I'm documenting.

I'm spending a lot of time talking with the kids about this.

I'm really tired and worn out today and nearly had a big crash - just didn't see a car at an intersection. Yikes! Need to get some sleep and stay FOCUSED.

Thanks for reminding me to keep my hands clean. I use this phrase like the 'STOP SIGN' now and it really works for me.

Thanks for your prayers; hope you are OK.

LIS

[wishing, hoping]

W,H

Thanks for letting me know that you recognise crazy too!
This mlc sh-t is too much, is it not?
I am off to see the lawyer tomorrow, and accountant is ready to go.
Dentist took a big slab of money this morning. I'll be playing 'professional' bingo when the bills come in. Can't see where this is gonna balance out, but trying to have faith that things will brighten-up money-wise.

NLW...H just told me tonight that if I don't agree to his latest proposal we will be in arrears with the house. Um hum...that's nice. Why don't you sell the car with the $500 a month car payment? What about all the money you are spending in gas to see OW? How about the other credit card you use and pay on with marital money? I could go on but I won't. You get the idea. Things don't go their way, they do and say whatever they can to gain control. I just nod and say I'll think about it and consult my attorney. It's kind of comical in my case because he is ruinin his own finances to get his way.

Just give it up to God and get counsel. That's all you can do.

(((((NLW))))))

WH