Here we go loopty loo. Here we go loopty li.

[JBolt]

I completely get what you mean about if real H could see himself. My H was really upset by the affairs that happened with our friends, even when it was just a kiss. He didn't want to know anything about it because he felt obligated to tell the other spouse.

That's funny because my W was the same way. I also have a big problem with infidelity, trust is paramount to me. There were these students I knew in grad school, the woman was married and was not subtle about her feeling for this other male student. It was pretty embarrassing to go out with them the way they behaved and knowing her husband was at home and likely didn't have a clue. Well, she divorced him and married her fellow student shortly after they both graduated and appear to have a pretty stable relationship. I don't think it was MLC or anything, she just fell in love with this other guy. The point being, my W hated both of them. She really didn't know them at all and had never really interacted with them, but based on what I told her through the years she thought it was horrible what they had done. I see them at least once a year and sometimes share work with the husband. But through the years, every time I mentioned one of them my wife's face would twist with disgust. I always agreed with her on this.

Fast forward to mid-Oct. 2012. My W has her online EA and the fantasy of always being in love with this tool she never so much as held hands with and hasn't seen in 25 years . I couldn't understand how she could make those two moral choices/judgments jive. How does one so insulted by adultery amongst people she doesn't even know turn around and commit adultery? It's f'd up.
J.