Gonna be different now, (butterfly in hurricane).

[Big Bruce]

Hi all,
Thanks for all your input, but check that :

So today is my first day of "ordered" visits. I had written a very short email asking her to confirm that she would be dropping S.
Her answer is no, I have to come pick him up all the time if I want to see S, because the order gives me extra time, so it has to be used for travelling.
Hello, travelling (20 minutes one way) not only consumes my visitation time, which is limited, but I don't see why the effort shouldn't be shared, and the cost also.
On Thursday, she had agreed in front of our two lawyers, to alternate between us picking ups and dropping offs. Now, she is one more time promising something, and doesn't want to comply !
What do I do now? Tell her :but you promised so, bad girl?

Better, she asked the judge if one Saturday in March she could skip the visit to go see her sister who is expecting soon, the judge asked me if it was ok with me, and I said yes. She told me she would would use her free week-end this very saturday, I said ok. when I asked when she would make up for the time, she said she wouldn't because the order didn't say so. Man, anyone acting in good faith would try to make up for time she's be allowed so she could visit her sister. Not say plain in my face it's a loss for me.
The goal is to smoothen the transition towards 50-50%, not to withold S as much as she can!

Since she is taking it like that, should I tell her that the order granted her one free Saturday in March, not in February?
Dang, at some point we will have to cooperate, it's not about aggravating me as much as she can for Pete's sake.

As for the GU syndrome, she often refers to how she had to take care of the baby by herself, and whines about me not having been interested. Heck, she had 6 months of maternity leave. She stayed home all day with the baby. I was working during the day like a madman, and understandably had less energy in the evening to play bah bah bah with the baby. Ok, I should have made the effort, and tried to make monkey faces at S, or changed his diaper. But I didn't and it's too late now, what is done is done, no need to recall how she had to carry all the weight of motherhood on her all the time. (I know 25yearsmic, it was a critical time of her life, I know..) And consider her motherhood above my fatherhood.

I am really trying to be understanding and decipher the logic of hers, but can't figure it out. What's her goal in wanting sole custody and me not being involved in my S's life? Why not to cooperate with me with S visits? While I was still in France, she said several times for me to stay there. Is she secretly hoping that by making it hard on me I will give up and go back?

Anyone, what does W want?
How do I handle this very angry and resentful woman?

Thanks again,
Bruce