Right, but she has said (recently) that she "forgives us". She has said before that she has forgiven me. Do I dare challenge that? Or do I ask what that means to her?
I have often thought that if she really, really had forgiven us or me that trtying to move forward wouldn't be such a rough go.
Additionally, I don't think that there is any validity to saying that you have forgiven someone in one breath and then saying you never want anything to do with them in the next. Is that really forgiveness? Seriously - I don't know. My mother has flat out SAID that about her and xw hasn't said it - but sorta lives it.
To that point, in terms of what I saw with forgiveness as a child in my family - really not a ton. My mother is for sure the type of person to hold a grudge or not let anyone "push her around". Kind of the eye for an eye type....you hurt me and I will try to hurt you back. Perhaps that is seen in my previous posts about her (mom).
