Crimson........Winds of change blowing???

[25yearsmlc]

you can ask her what SHE thinks it'd take to get past it.

you can ask her how forgiveness was shown in her childhood, IF it was...or if she thinks there are tools that exist to learn how.

OR you can offer some info about how hurt you were, NOT BECAUSE of HER, per se, but due to the situation.

You wanted to be angry but some "pro m" friends convinced you otherwise...and some of them had to do a lot of forgiveness work even though they never saw it growing up...

or you can ASK her if she thinks "free will plays any part in it"...

FWIW, at one point, I had not decided to forgive my h for a number of reasons. Then I heard a surprise speaker (surprise to me anyhow) at a meeting, and she spoke of forgiveness.

She came from Rwanda, and as you can imagine, her story moved me a lot. It included neighbors slaughtering her family (although once upon a time they got along.)

And they hunted for HER too, but fortunately, others took her in. She hid in a bathroom for 5 months with 4 others from her tribe...in a bathroom. She lost a lot of weight. Down to 65 lbs...

My point, she forgave the folks who killed her family and who wanted to kill her. She spoke so lovingly of God, HIS grace, etc.

Obviously she chose to forgive. That's all I got for ya now.