in my state, (a community property state) w/a 31 year marriage, and w/my h's income a lot higher than mine, I'd get spousal support until if and when I remarried. It'd be nearly half his take home pay, plus in our case, some child support for our youngest still at home.
Child support ends when the youngest leaves. All assets would be divided in half. IN your situation, your H might have to buy you out OR pay you a salary if you kept working there...but I understand why you don't feel alright with that.
Spousal support is not related to having children, (just to child support) but to length of marriage and income disparity. Division of assets acquired during the marriage is pretty easy to compute.
(Only inherited assets and gifts are not part of community property. That applies to you as well, so if your mother leaves you something or if you inherit, please keep those funds separate from marital/community assets)
In California, a marriage longer than 10 years is presumed to be a "long term m" and therefore the chance of permanent spousal support leaps upward to increasingly likely. With Your marital length, it'd be permanent or until you remarry.
(Remember Tom Cruise filed for divorce a month before his 10th anniversary? Nicole Kidman was planning a party for them and she was pregnant too. But I'm sure it was a coincidence on his end... )
Will your standard of living go down? Yes, for both of you. But is it manageable? I'd guess yes.
More later...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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