Guys, I'm amazed at how similar our situations are. RockJC, I'd check every one of those boxes too except trade out "Music and headphones" with "constant internet / computer absorbtion" and leave "I'm finally happy" unchecked. She admits that she's pretty damn unhappy, but then again a lot of that is because she still lapses frequently into anger mode. And I'm sure she also imagines that when we finally split up / divorce, the gates of eden will open and she'll finally find the shangri-la that awaits.
One question. How are your kids doing with all of this? For me, that's been the biggest thing, trying to shield them from all the foreboding, malice and weirdness that's in the air. How are you guys doing with that part of it?
