I do remember that advice that you gave me some time ago. Believe me, I say - "there are a lot of things that I would do differently if I had them to do over again" a lot. I am sure that with every R talk, that comes out at least once. I think I have come a long way in terms of laying down defenses during R talks, but sometimes I think it require a certain level of mental "nimbleness" and improvisation that I have yet to achieve. On the bright side, NONE of our R talks have ever escalated since I started DBing....that is a big plus, so I must be doing SOMETHING right.
Another thought that I did not jot down above in my previous post - I am hopeful that my parents shipping out next month (I mentioned they bought a house, right?) will help a bit. On a handful of occasions she has mentioned that them being here does not do a lot in terms of us being able to spend time together. Not that I expect her to MOVE IN, but come by more often would be nice if we could make it work. At times she seems open to it, but then sometimes she seems hurt still.
