I'm in a similar living situation to you Maritimer, so I can sympathize with some of your frustration.
But, AS is right - everything you do to DB is counter-intuitive to logic and our feelings. Regardless of what you THINK the situation is, I can almost guarantee you it's MUCH more complicated below the surface. Do not assume anything, mainly because you really cannot know what's going on inside of her.
Focus only on what you CAN control and that is YOU!
Originally Posted By: Maritimer
My view on the selfish thing is that I wont be seeing my children everyday. It will hurt me greatly not to be there when they wake up or the hugs and kisses each night.
Yes, that will hurt and I feel for you in that regard. However, telling her exactly how you feel about it will do nothing to alleviate the hurt you feel. The only thing it will do is make matters worse; because in many they are just as confused as the LBS.
I highly recommend The Five Love Languages and Michelle's books - all very good material.
If you really want to take a cold hard look at yourself, pick up Dr. Phil's 'Relationship Rescue'. But, and I can't stress this enough, don't bother with it unless you're willing to be serious about tackling your issues - you may not like what you find out about yourself...
