I know I need to lose the scorecard. That has been an issue with both of us for a long time.
I also have felt that I needed to be more loving, more supportive and learn to validate her more. HOWEVER, that seems to go against every rule of DBing. I have struggled with that since day one. I just don't know how to engage her with those things without coming off as pressuring. I want to. I know that is what she wants, even though probably not from me right anymore, that is what she wants ultimately.
So, let me ask you this question, because I know it will come up. She will want to know why I have been acting distant and not being friendly towards her. How should I repsond to that?
