Your reply was a real stinker. All about YOU and YOUR feelings after she just sent you a heartfelt message.
God only knows what text you sent that she was responding to...
Stop the anger. Drop the gun. Lose the scorecard.
And since you were NOT a great h or a pursuer IN the marriage, maybe you ought to re-think your "go dark" approach. It comes out as cold distant lack of caring, at best.
I don't mean for you to pressure her to return, b/c that's more of you wanting to get your way (power plays too). I mean for you to express regrets on your end AND positives for her.
NO "negative" feedback to her. No excuses for your past behavior.
Even if you think "but it's accurate!" B/C it does not matter now.
She just reached out. Don't blow this opportunity. LISTEN and STHU excpet when it's clear she wants feedback from you. Again, lose the scorecard. It does not help you.
Own YOUR stuff and model that behavior for her. Do NOT insist on tit for tat or say "well now what do YOU apologize for??" None of that. Lose the anger...OMG please...it only confirms her negative images of you when you are trying to undermine those negatives.
Meaning, you need to Contrast the negative images she has of you, w/positives.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
