Still confused...about everything.

[AJM]

I am very happy you found some help. I suggest you continue to ask for help. The more the merrier in fact. I think of it this way - if you ask 100 people for help, and 95 say no, you still have 5 more helping you than you otherwise would have

I just got asked by my friend about my sitch and what was going on...and I said the funniest thing to him, but really felt it when I said it.

I told him that I am now annoyed and angry when H and I text, talk or are together...that I feel like I am done.

Just the other day I was considering asking H out on a date...

What is wrong with me and why do I really feel and believe this?

My friend thinks I have actually found someone and texted me after the phone call to ask me because of the way I described everything. I can assure you I haven't.

Have you ever heard people say that you should not make life altering choices while you're emotional about something? Can you see why they would say that? Additionally, can you see why taking the "need" to make life-altering changes while stressed, away from a stressed out person?

Can you see the stress in your life?

If I were a stress coach, I would suggest you find a way to de-stress/de-clutter your life ASAP. I would quit being your coach if you didn't take that advice.

Part of growing up is learning to gather things and people for ourselves. Part of growing older and wiser is learning to let things go that are not good for us or are not helping us.

You aren't letting go of much

To have a roller-coaster of emotions at this time and situation in your life is not abnormal. Perhaps it's new to you, but it's very normal to have these reactions. It makes you sick, physically as well. Or it can at any rate.

Even if you bury those feelings deep, they'll be there. Eating away at you. Dealing with them head-on, dropping the pride in favor of what's best for you and your kids, and taking it one step at a time is the surest way to get yourself back into good health and mentally stable.

You can safely acknowledge that you are stressed and cannot handle it all. We've all been there, even if not to the extent or even way past that extent, you're there now.

You can also safely let some things fall to the floor for somebody else to handle. They won't do it in your time or in your way, but it will get done if it needs to.

Peace,

AJ