I mentioned that since I'm backing off, he's been trying to engage more. Sandi2 37rules specially state not to pursue but allow him to do that. My "H" has actually begun to ask me to call him before leaving for work every morning. I don't know if he as caught on to what I am trying to do OR if he is actually wanting to talk to me. When we do talk, he asks that we meet up for lunch. Again, this puts me in a position where backing off is difficult to do. I don't want to push him away or ignore the fact that he is trying to spend his time with me verses the OW.
Your thoughts...
Accept some, but not all of the invitations. Appear busy or preoccupied with something else that prevents accepting all invitations. I read another book called the Passion Trap, and he argues for "healthy distance" versus trying to just create distance.
