when I say "the lack of affirming words puzzles me...it always improves m's"...
I mean to say that giving affirmations always improves marriage. The lack of it surprises me.
I think it's either a deliberate withholding of affection or compliments, b/c of scorekeeping or b/c it's seen as some sort of weak move. So it may be a power play.
The way you speak of the r's in your family and the way you measure things I do see a lot of power plays and maneuvering and I just wonder where you got that outlook.
Not everything is about power SP. Marriages ought not to be about power, for sure.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
