Wow, 25's post was like a 2x4 to MY gut!! A lot of that could have been addressed directly to me and definitely gives me things to consider in my own sitch.
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As a last attempt, I felt I would offer her an opertunity to be included in an activity with D and I. We all have the entire day off, today. I texted W and asked if she would like to spend the day with us. She texted back that she was trying to sleep off a headache and that we should go on without her. She, "might call when she woke up". Well, that was it for me. I WILL NOT be offering any more activities. I see no reason to put forth the effort anymore.
Remember what Michele says in DR, have no expectations about these invitations!! It is perfectly fine to invite the WAS along to an activity that you are already planning, but if she doesn't go, then no big deal, because you ARE GOING ANYWAY. You have got to get to the point where you truly don't care whether she goes or not. You invite her, if she says no then you shrug your shoulders and go and enjoy yourself anyway. That doesn't mean you have to invite her to every single thing you do, but it's OK to invite her now and then. Also, she may legitimately have had a headache. If she really did, do you think it was fair to her for you to be PO'd about her not going? Would you even want her to go if she had a splitting headache?
