Maybe your W thinks all those years you were demanding and hypercritical she was putting in an effort. Eventually she had had enough and then suddenly you wanted to work on the marriage.
I think you are correct. I believe this is exactly how my wife feels. She has expressed this very thing.
Originally Posted By: labug
And that's fine but everything you bring up is within your control to change and most of it isn't about her. It's all about your anger and your need to be right and your fear that you might somehow be taken advantage of, she might get one over on you.
I would guess you were hypercritical because you were afraid your W would embarrass you in some way.
You don't want to be what you perceive as humiliated. That's your issue, in your control.
I am not so sure about this one. I have been hypercritical for a very long time, long before W came into the picture. It is actually a family trait I beleieve. However, the fear of humiliation or failure is likely what drives it, but I am not sure.
