He called at 5pm on home phone to speak to kids (after being MIA for the past 4 days).
I answered and was upbeat. I said "Hi, How are you?" and handed him over to S14.
As usual, stbx wanted to see kids NOW.
S14 explained that he was doing homework and then we were going out to dog training.
As soon as we got home, phone started ringing again. Stbx said he wanted to take the children to see his parents tomorrow night after school. I said that S14 had rowing until 7pm, and D17 had basketball until 6pm. (His parents live a good 45 mins away). I asked him if his parents were ok and he said i no longer had the right to ask him anything about his family.
Then he said what about the next night after school? When I said that S14 had debating and D17 had planned to go to a movie, he blew up. He started practically screaming at me that I was stopping him seeing the children. Told me he was going to lawyer tomorrow to seek custody of the kids. I tried to calm him down, but he said that i had turned the children against OW. He insisted i put him back to S14. Told S14 he was coming around to pick him up to take him out to talk. It was 9.45pm. S14 said it was late and he was getting ready for bed. Stbx started yelling at S14 who then hung up on him.
I asked D17 to ring her father afterwards so they might negotiate a mutually suitable time to see each other on the weekend (given that she works both days in order to make money to support herself). She called and also asked him to pay for a training course that she and her friends are enrolling in for the school holidays - kids who intend to take the medical entry exam in their final year of college need to attend these 'cramming' workshops to be trained in how to do well in the entrance test. It costs $600. Stbx screamed at her for calling him so late at night (9.50pm). She pointed out that he usually calls her much later and it all went downhill from there. He refused to pay and told her to put me on the line.
He told me that he "could not keep paying for everything".
I'm sure he must be insane now. He has not paid for his half of the kids school fees, books or uniforms, has not contributed to their medical expenses and has stopped the small maintenance payments that he was making (for a period of 12 weeks out of the 18 months of our separation).
The only positive out of all of this madness is that it makes it so much easier to be done.
He is deeply delusional. He sounds hysterical.
Forgot to add that i got a call today from a debt collecting company saying that stbx had defaulted on a payment agreement that he had negotiated with them to pay for a car repair bill that dates back to July of last year. He had not paid even the first instalment of the agreed amount. They said that unless he paid the full amount ($5,000) by tomorrow, they would take court action.
I presume I am the only punching bag he has left.
It remains to be seen whether I get a new set of papers after tomorrow. The ones I was served last week say that he is not seeking custody.
I'm having a hard time dealing with the nuttiness of all this. To claim he is paying 'for everything' when he is paying for nothing at all....
