Most of the time I don't think the WAS is happy. Sure there are probably things that are better once they leave but they are usually leaving alot behind.
Today was wierd. W started the day cold and aloof. As the day went on she opened up more and was showing more of her nice side. She turned over in bed just now to just say goodnight. That does not happen very often.
I have a hard time acting "as if" when my wife is acting cold/mean. It just hurts to see that she is not herself and it hurts when someone you love so dearly does not return that love.
People who have followed my sitch know that we still ML (not nearly as often) and I think I am thankful for that. What I miss the most though is the everyday affection like hugs, a hand on a knee, a pat on the back for no reason. The little moments that shows someone cares. You really don't know what you've got until it's gone.
I agree, it is very tough when the small things don't happen. Be thankful that you still share a bed and ML on occasion. I sometimes see a cold start to the day with a warmer finish but that is the guilt side coming to the surface for whatever reason.
