Rachael, I certainly wasn't suggesting being a doormat either. And KML, I'm not saying she should be option B. I've been there. I know better
What I'm suggesting is for Rachael. And only for Rachael. She is not done. As such, setting the boundaries and taking the approach to list out what she will and will NOT accept, can be helpful.
I can see lying is one thing she won't accept. I applaud that and agree. But what else?
Having that clear structure can be helpful when emotions are involved. It's worth it to write it down, Rachael. Even if you don't reconcile things with your H. This suggestion was about you and only YOU. Rather, my agreement with the suggestion is only about you. I can't speak for others, but I saw it that way from OT as well.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
