But I'm interested to know why you are suggesting that dbmod. Divorce Busting is about doing what works. Being at wife's side is not working for him. We have seen 17 months of that.
She almost died and he was there for her every step of the way. He did this w/o expectations from her (at least none that he projected on her)
If that didn't change her mind - why would a vacation?
I can understand your point about creating a good memory and would suggest it myself if this would be early on in his sitch. But it's not and it's more of the same from him.
IMO - he needs to experiment with some 180s. A 180 here would be living his own life and letting his wife figure out on her own if she misses him enough to reach back.
Yes it's risky and may not get the answer he wants.. but it will definitely be an answer he deserves to know.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
