Just so you know you sound very angry. And that's fine but everything you bring up is within your control to change and most of it isn't about her.
A headache seems like a little thing to kick her out over but I guess that's what the WA is reacting to when they BD, little drips of water over time and finally the dam breaks.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss