I wasn't really dying to have a sign, Sandi. I simply said it would be easier for me to continue if I had a sign. I was at the point of giving up even then, and I was looking for something to hold on to.
In regards to what I will accomplish is roughly this:
$700-$800 a month in support I am paying to keep a roof over her head and insurance on her behind. I will also not have to see her, or feel awkward that I might at any given moment, on my own property. My daughter will not feel a sense of tuggle war every time friends/customers/family are here, but her parents have different visiting days. I will not have customers wondering why my wife is living alone in our old apartment, which literally does not look good for business. Only a business owner will understand this one, but it is true. Lastly, by not having her directly under my nose, I will have a much easier time detaching and moving forward with my own life. That is what I think I will gain by asking her to move on with her choice to "move on". Am I happy that I feel I have to consider doing this? No I am not. Ideally I would like to rebuild our marriage and keep my family intact. For obvious reasons, my W would have to be on board with that. She is not. Will there be any negative effects from my decision? There probally will be. However, I am not 100% sure what they will be. I can see it being a negative towards Reconciling, but to what degree I am not sure. Maybe you can help me a little more with some input????
