In the span of two hours I got more mixed signals than I care to figure out
Ok, first thing is that your W is not sending you mixed signal.....there is no signal.
Stealing a metaphor from another poster, picture this: A large cardboard box on the table with the lid closed. The box is filled with 100 angry and crazy frogs, hopping "mad"....this is your W's state of mind right now if she is mlc...don't peek in the box, you might lose an eye. M'Kay?
Stop playing the jealousy card, you'll lose...even if she were to come back to you based on that, it isn't what you want....you'll be back here in a couple years, or sooner...so you still would lose.
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no she was completely against drinking as her father was a recovering alcoholic. Thanfullu, she has always been slim and trim. She did go on Effexor for panic attacks and it seems things got worse (drinking) and appears to have her numb in general. No tears at funeral.
Do some research on that drug, it is known for some side effects like you are witnessing...in my case, both times my W went on it, she exhibited a marked change in behavior, numb, NO empathy (and she was/is very empathetic)...instead on alcohol she went for OMs, BOTH times. Just fyi....
First and foremost, BACK-OFF! Stop poking the sleeping cat. Give her space. Work on YOU!
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back to the way things were or get a divorce, she would choose divorce.
So tell about "the way things were"...what has she told you that when you looked in the mirror honestly had some validity? We all have missed the mark as spouses in some fashion. What are you doing about it, for you, to be a better man, father, husband?
Have you read all of Cadet's homework? How about other poster's sitches, like ForeverYoung's, or Jayhawk1970's?
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