I got a new challenge today--good opportunity to practice what I'm preaching in my book. One of my friends (FB friends with my H) emailed me to say she was "Sorry about the FB pictures." I had no idea what she was talking about bc I'm not FB friends with him, so I got my mom's help to check (she's still FB friends with him.) And yes, his new "GF" had posted pictures of their romantic dinner of valentine's day. The old me would've been devastated. The new me still experienced anger, but I was able to let it go fast, and the episode didn't ruin my day. After all, I don't want to relinquish control of my life to my H's antics. This will be one of many more women to come. I told my friend I didn't need to know of any future postings bc I wasn't his FB friend.
I emailed him and said that out of respect, I would appreciate it if he didn't post pictures of his GF's until after the D. He hasn't replied yet, and I don't expect a reply. I'm sure he's in a bind, bc if he asks the woman to not post pictures, she'll question whether he is really available or not. I think he'll just continue letting her post pictures. He might just defriend my friend or hide his postings from her or something like that.
I am glad that the new man that my H is will be out of my life soon. His presence in my life is limiting my potential. The man I married was gone when the A happened, and now I understand how this D is the best thing to happen based on who he is now.
