Several opinions here...all care about you --all are valid -- mostly yours and your wife 's
Without discounting the others--I don't at all--they have GREAT points. Mine will get the yawn or eye-roll, so feel free to 'bring it'---
Give this vacation a stupor, ESP since its YOUR idea.....invite her, enjoy it, make a memory, if only for your kids. Let go of any and all expectations and see what you get that you can build on. If she will go, you have a lot more going for you than a lot of folks would give their eye teeth for, even if some folks don't agree.
Whatever you decide , we're on your side, you've done a great job so far.
